It's All About What You Have
I know you've seen the show Hoarders. Or at least know of it.
You look at the person living among piles of paper, clothing, broken electronics and breathe a sigh of relief. I know what you're thinking - because we all think it.
"I'm not that bad."
And yet, so many people are still unhappy with the amount of stuff and the material baggage that they have in their homes.
How many times have you said something like:
"I really need to tackle the garage."
"I don't even know where that is."
"Ugh, my closet is such a mess!"
"I'm too busy to keep my home straight - I just try to keep the chaos to a minimum."
The problem most people have is that they are constantly cleaning and tidying a lot of things - and a lot things that don't even bring them joy.
I'm talking about the ceramic bulldog you got in a white elephant gift exchange last year, the collection of watercolors you've been saving for when you get into painting again, the set of weights you've been avoiding because you hate exercise, and that pile of bills and papers that you need to sort through, and those sweaters and shirts in the closet that you don't wear anymore, but you just can't get rid of because you might need them this winter...
You've got stuff you don't need, and you don't even like.
It's okay, we all have those things.
But the truth is, all that stuff is holding you back. It's actually causing you a very big problem.
Think about it. If you had (humor me) a thousand coffee cups of different colors, shapes and sizes, how would you keep all of those coffee cups? I mean, cleaning them alone would be a hundred dishwasher cycles full of cups. And where would you store all of them? How would you keep them straight?
Inevitably, you would end up using probably just around five or so coffee cups - the rest would sit untouched and unused. There would be no way around the fact that you would be officially hoarding coffee cups - nobody can use a thousand coffee cups in a way that would make rational sense.
Wouldn't it be better to just choose the coffee cups that you love the most and get rid of the rest?
Instead of all your cabinets and drawers and storage and garage being filled with coffee cups that you don't even remember that you own?
(For the record, I don't hate coffee cups. I own coffee cups, but they are a set of beautiful Japanese ceramic coffee mugs that I am in love with)
Now substitute those coffee mugs for the other stuff that you probably own. Clothing, kitchen appliances and dishware, electronics, craft supplies, tools, shoes, you name it. Can you honestly say that every single thing makes you happy?
Or, let me put this another way: Would you use every single item that you have in your home, every single day if you had to without getting tired of it or hesitation? Within reason of course - you're not going to use an electric drill on your home every day, but when you do need to use it, it's there and it works well.
The idea is to focus on the things that you love and bring you a lot of joy and happiness - and ditch the rest.
The things that are in your home that you aren't in love with, are just kind of there, that you're going to get around to someday, that you bought but aren't sure about - they are just sitting there, waiting for the day that you will use them - that will never come for those poor neglected objects.
Wouldn't it be better to let them go? To release them into the world so someone else can enjoy them, and use them to their full potential?
The only things in your home (and frankly, in your life) should be the things that bring you joy.
Nothing else is allowed.
If you're not in love with it, don't bring it home.
If it's already in your home, make it exit your home.
You're only going to achieve the results you want by making decisions to focus on the things that are important. By eliminating the things that don't make sense, that you aren't in love with, that you aren't passionate about, you open yourself more to the things that you do love, are interested in, and care about.